Family

Marriage is not a passing adventure.  It is a lifelong relationship, a strong commitment that is fulfilled through the law and a vital partnership.

 Three conditions are essential to the success of the family.  These are those tranquility, love and forgiveness.  To say peace, I want to believe in happiness and peace and happiness.  Just as a husband needs to be fully satisfied with his wife, so does a wife need to be fully satisfied with her husband.  Love is the name of a mutual feeling that makes a relationship happy and joyful, and forgiveness is the basis of all the virtues of the character of men and women.

 In this context, a verse of the Qur'an can be mentioned so that Allah tells the Prophet (peace be upon him), "It is Allah's grace that you treat people with kindness, so if you behave rough and possess a hard heart, they will be disappointed with your surroundings."  Could move away. '- [Al-Ma'ida: 159]

 Forgiveness is not a feeling of temporary empathy;  On the contrary, it is the name of a persistent fruitfulness of heart, high moral standards and dignity.

 Marriage is fruitful because of the peace that deepens the bonds of intense peace, love and empathy, and it is a blessing on earth.  Such a family is able to withstand any obstacles in the society and such families can give good gifts to the nation.  It seems to me that most children have a troubled relationship with their parents and the ongoing quarrels that are responsible for the emotional distress, frustration, hardship and various complex problems that arise.

 One could ask, is it not the passion for the happy world that is all, wealth or material means?  No, not all emotions.  The materials I talked about above need to be added to some of the materials that will help to create a happy family or a better family.

 A Hadith of the Prophet can help us in this regard.  Saad bin Abi Waqqas said.  Narrated from the Prophet.  Says, 'Three things can make you happy: one.  A wife whom you love and trust that she will make as much money or wealth as you do and keep her loyalty and solidarity to you even in your absence.  Two.  A fleet of vehicles that will help you move in parallel with your friends and three.  A large house with many amenities.  Similarly, three things can keep you from falling into despair: One.  A wife whom you think is bad and who hurts you with words and you don't trust her when you are out and about your own custody and your money.  Two.  You used to be a lazy animal that you were too inclined to push and didn't push.  And three.  Very small house, so that there is not a lot of amenities. ”Al Albani.

 It is only natural that we do things that will make us happy and that we will avoid or avoid the things that cause unrest in our lives.  In this regard, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in the hadeeth, "Do something so that you can benefit, seek the help of Allah and never feel helpless." - Muslim.

 Religion never ignores the natural human needs.  So why not try to be comfortable, content and happy.  Every Muslim has the right to seek a comfortable and comfortable home, which will encourage him to work and be productive.  He also has the right to dislike transport inadequacies, inadequate facilities and the Dajjal spouse / partner.

 When a man or a woman is interested in getting married, he should make sure that he has the best possible inquiries about the bride or groom, whether the quality of the jury he expects exists in the proposed marriage.  If so, then Alhamdulillah.  Otherwise, there will be no end to suffering.  Because before marriage, many are seen as adorned with great glory, but after marriage there are different forms.  It is seen again and again that no matter how much he pledges to his wife before marriage, they no longer keep that promise.  We have been warned in our religion about such weak-hearted people.  Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) has said that the wife must pay more than the minimum.  If a person pledges not to pay the Moharana and, despite his pledge, does not pay Moharana and dies in this state, then in the Hereafter he will appear in the court of Allah as an adulteress.  In the same way, if a person pledges to not pay his dues and dies without paying his dues, then in the Hereafter he will be forced to appear in the court of Allah as a thief. [Al-Albani]

 However, if a wife feels that her husband is truly a gentleman and sincere in fulfilling his pledge, then the husband may become poor if he voluntarily gives away part or all of the money.  But there are some people who think they have only rights but no responsibilities.  While the husband has the same rights over the wife, so does the wife have the right over the husband.  Therefore, the husband should also be more concerned about the rights of the wife, then peace will come in the world.

 Thus, in the Islamic family system, the burden of responsibility for men is slightly higher than that of women.  Family leadership and authority over men.  Without a doubt, there is a need for leadership and authority at every level of society.  But this does not mean that the husband will suppress his wife's views, his social or economic rights, to assert authority.

 Married women or men have certain characteristic obligations in society.  If a woman or man has such a deficiency, then her marriage should not be bound.  For example, if a woman is of a harsh nature and she does not even have a sympathetic body and the emotions of others fail to respond to her;  Then he should not marry.  Because it would not be possible for him to be a good wife and mother.  Imagine that if at one time her husband became seriously ill and the hired servant could not be hired to serve her, then the wife should be saved by her husband's good fortune.  This is the social obligation of the husband towards his wife.

 In fact, the criterion of love is not a trademark of mutual interest.  The nest of peace builds upon the premise of love that it cannot be matched with the calculation of interest on the ground.  So if it were, then men could not lay down their lives for the sake of family happiness, so no women could look at the faces of their husbands and children to immerse all their sadhals.